Integrity
If the word eternity can span Sydney's iconic coat hanger, then the term integrity ought to have been emblazoned upon the chimney at the Northern Suburbs Crematorium on 21 April 2018. Wearing the same suit, shirt and tie that I donned some five months ago to farewell my mother, I found myself back at the godforsaken place; The East Chapel, Northern Suburbs Crematorium. Yet strangely there was no wretched feeling in my bones or signs of dread when dealing with the dead. Instead, like wrapping oneself in a doona, by returning to this place of solemnity I felt that I was revisiting an old friend. Despite most of my family's 'old' friends having gone up in smoke at this very place, there is a familiarity about the four chapels that I nickname the "crem". The older you are, the more visits you make. On this day the dear departed soul was my mother's rheumatologist Dr John Hassall, who first diagnosed her crippling arthritic condition in the 1980s. He al...